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Admyering the view: Defying expectations

Life is not about doing what people expect

 by Amanda L. Myers  published on Thursday, February 24, 2005



"Women belong in the kitchen."

That's one of the opinions I grew up hearing my father express.

His other ideas included that women were born to get married, make babies, please their husbands and smile.

Given that I'm his only daughter, you can imagine what his expectations of me were; none of which, I am proud to say, I have fulfilled. Except smiling -- I do that on occasion.

Throughout childhood, I spent much of my time leading the crusade to modernize my father, educate him about women's rights and their abilities, and make him understand I wasn't going to be one of those females whose only goals are reproduction and marriage.

Which is why I feel a kinship with Zachary Yoshioka, the topic of this issue's cover story.

Despite the expectations his parents had for him, including holding a steady job and a starting a family, Yoshioka went his own way.

And his film-making career is flourishing. At only 23-years-old, Yoshioka has made 14 films and earns his money from filming music videos for bands.

"We sent you to college to go out on the road with bands named Junkee and Kottonmouth?" Yoshioka says, mimicking his mother.

But what a lot of parents don't get, including my father, is that it's not about doing what you're expected to do. It's about doing what makes you feel happy and fulfilled.

For Yoshioka, that means hitting the road and living a rock-star life filled with groupies and movie premiers.

For me, that means concentrating on my journalism career; not finding a husband and birthing children, as my father has always expected.

So check out the story about Yoshioka, titled "His own direction" on page 6 to learn more about how an ASU alumnus has found success by living his life his own way.

Also this issue, SPM writer Heather Wells talks to artist Larry Kirkwood about making hundreds of body busts of real people in "Body beautiful" on page 9. Kirkwood says his art exists to make people think about their own bodies and re-evaluate what they think about other people's bodies. It will be displayed on Hayden Lawn next week.

And don't miss "Brewding young men" on page 10. SPM writer Kate Kliner talks to a group of friends who make their own beer. The three male students stock about 200 bottles of their home brew in their closet, and the equipment it requires to make the beer takes up about half of their garage.

I bet their parents never expected that.

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